Yes. You are right. I guess maybe we are hardwired to compare ourselves to others, because it used to help our hunter-gatherer ancestors to survive. When I see a person who speaks far more fluent that me, I can’t help but feel envious, no matter how much I try.
However, I think we can manage this feeling and at least prevent it frome hurting us, or we can channel it to our advantage like a fuel for us to try harder. But despite all that I admit that it’s easier said and done.
PS: The philosophy of “nothing really matters in the end” may also help us get rid of this feeling a little at least temporarily.
Today, a roommie wronged me. Despite her belief that she had given me her student ID last night, she found her card in the pocket of one of her clothes this afternoon when she came to our dorm room to search for it. The funny thing is tho that she didn’t even bother herself to apologize to me for it afterwards. It’s not that I’m dying to hear other people’s apologies, no. It’s just that I hate it when they constantly disrespect my boundaries. But what I hate most is how I tend to suppress my emotions and do not let them manifest through my behavior toward them.
You know, the more I live the more I feel misanthropic towards humankind. There are of course exceptions, but I think living alone and socializing with only two or three close friends is enough.
Did you two just give each other the thumbs up for something totally depressing?
Why do we think everything must be exactly the way we imagine them to be proper? 100 per cent of people are selfish, give them, and yourself, a break. Recently, I let people to be morons, and I’m OK with this.
Judge me:
I’m looking for a house to rent. So I needed a little time to go and see a few houses. Even though I stayed at work and filled in for my colleague a few days ago, she didn’t care enough to do the same for me when I needed to be off from work. So… completely naturally, I got angry at her. Why? Cos I expect others to have my standards. (Bad news for me ,and you: THEY DON’T).
OK, should I be angry at her?
So I’ll let her to be a moron. Becoming mad isn’t going to help me.
In case you didn’t get me: So you’ve seen a few bad things in people’s behavior; so what? Being unsociable is the correct response? Aren’t you just justifying your unsociable life? Looking for a reason to stay the same? I’m not saying you are wrong, but I cannot accept you are right either.
Think about it: Life is just a series of good and bad experiences (but for the most part it’s none of them; not good, not bad). And what you are trying to say is this: I had a bad experience with a few people, so I’m going to shift-delete everyone except the ones who I like.
Anyway…
Do you know why I deleted two or three of my last messages…?
Because I felt that you do not enjoy talking to me.
Or this is true. Or because you are an introvert! If it is the first reason, I’ll accept and break the relationship.
But if it is the second reason, your dealings with the people around you should not be cold…!!! and dry…!!!
Little by little you realize that you are very alone. You may like it, but eventually you will realize your mistake.
I would also like to say that…
For a better life, one must learn flexibility…
To have a happier life, one should learn to socialize with people…
To live easier, you should not expect others, do not compare yourself with them…
BUT sometimes to understand others, we can replace ourself with those people! Maybe if we were in their situation, we would behave like that…!
Sometimes it is good to give rights to others. It is a sign of the growth of our personality…
And sometimes it is good to forgive, this is our courage.
Living alone is equal to quick destruction of the person.
I do enjoy your company. I haven’t noticed that you’re deleting you’re posts from this topic till now. Although I noticed that you deleted your post from my Free Discussion topic the other day. I admit, it was a bit odd since you once told me you would only delete your messages from there after you were sure I had listened to them. Anyway, sorry if I made you feel you’re not welcome here. I know I could be quite taciturn at times but believe me I do not wish you any harm. I liked your message which means I do care about your opinion I just don’t have anything to say in reply to it. BTW, now that we’re on it, why did you deleted our messages from Telegram? I was going to reread your messages and talk more to you about that specific subject.
Thank you.
Misanthropy doesn’t necessarily mean hatred towards humans. It is a common misunderstanding and I myself didn’t know that until recently.
I feel really sorry and compassionate towards hummans who are suffering. Human life is a tragedy and I am sorry that I can’t help my fellow sufferers.
I just wish that we were less selfish and more caring towards oneanother. Sadly we humans lack this compassion.
There is an article about various kinds of misanthropy which also include compassion. I will share it in case you want to read it:
I just watched the video and it was interesting. I can’t read the article just yet cuz I need to do some research for my class this afternoon. But I downloaded it and will read it ASP.
Your words made me so happy…dear.I hope we’ll enjoy talking together.
And about our telegram conversation.It’s my bad!
I forgot to tell you for deleting.I actually had to give my cell phone to someone.So I didn’t want that person to know about our chat as well as other chats…that’s why I deleted them.
you know…
I remember what I said and surely you do too. So we can continue our talking…
Whenever you want to talk, I am at your service and it makes me happy.
Actually, I care about the things I said no more. That’s probably why I can’t remember our conversation in detail. One thing I remember is that I promised not to reveal any of the things you confided in me to anyone, and I have already done so and will continue to do so. But thanks for the offer.
I think people have the power to transform you. To turn you into different versions of yourself. I like the way my roomies have influenced me. I like our inside jokes. I like the vibe. But more importantly, I like the me around them. I think that’s what I’m going to do for the rest of my life; to surround myself with people who bring out the best in me.
We have the ability to choose, and those choices can greatly shape our lives. The power to create, to love, to destroy and to change is inside us, all we have to do is be brave enough to use it.
