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[mostafa.76]

Very beautiful. Thanks for sharing it.

[Mashreghi1]

Hello, @autophile.

I couldn’t read all your posts on your forum, but I did enjoy reading the ones I was able to.

[autophile]

Hi Hadi!
Honestly, I don’t know what you’re talking about. I mean, you could’ve at least liked the ones you enjoyed reading. That way, I could tell which of my writing is better liked. But, thanks for the compliment.

[autophile]

I am reduced to a thing that wants Virginia. I composed a beautiful letter to you in the sleepless nightmare hours of the night, and it has all gone: I just miss you, in a quite simple desperate human way. You, with all your un-dumb letters, would never write so elementary phrase as that; perhaps you wouldn’t even feel it. And yet I believe you’ll be sensible of a little gap. But you’d clothe it in so exquisite a phrase that it would lose a little of its reality. Whereas with me it is quite stark: I miss you even more than I could have believed; and I was prepared to miss you a good deal. So this letter is just really a squeal of pain. It is incredible how essential to me you have become. I suppose you are accustomed to people saying these things. Damn you, spoilt creature; I shan’t make you love me any the more by giving myself away like this—But oh my dear, I can’t be clever and stand-offish with you: I love you too much for that. Too truly. You have no idea how stand-offish I can be with people I don’t love. I have brought it to a fine art. But you have broken down my defences. And I don’t really resent it …
Please forgive me for writing such a miserable letter.
V.

P.S. I just love this letter Vita Sackville-West wrote to Virginia Woolf

[autophile]

If I can stop one heart from breaking,
I shall not live in vain;
If I can ease one life the aching,
Or cool one pain,
Or help one fainting robin
Unto his nest again,
I shall not live in vain.
If I can stop one heart from breaking by Emily Dickinson

[autophile]

Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed.
Alexander Pope

[autophile]

@boudicca

Blessed are they who expect nothing for they shall not be disappointed.’ But I think it would be worse to expect nothing than to be disappointed.”

An interesting way of looking at things!

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When I shared that quote last night, I had people in mind and how they tend to disappoint one another on a daily basis. I was thinking to myself that if I didn’t expect people to act the way I want them to, I wouldn’t be disappointed so frequently. I just wanted to remind myself that it’s better not to expect too much of those around me. I’d be much happier.

[autophile]

@boudicca

Well, we’re talking about Anne Shirley, are we not?

I LOVE that girl! (๑¯◡¯๑)

@boudicca

I don’t think people let each other down on purpose, though.

Neither do I. Not always at least.

@boudicca

To be honest, sometimes I think we’d all be better off on our own. Life would be much easier if we didn’t care about anybody but ourselves. The problem is, we never can.

I’m afraid I don’t agree with you on that part. I think there are some people who can’t care less about others. Not unless there’s sth in it for them. However, I believe no matter what we tell ourselves, and no matter how fragile it can be for some of us, we NEED that connection. To get it, at times, we even fake interest in their affairs.

[autophile]

@boudicca

love is a burden as much as a gift.

@boudicca

When I quoted ‘there’s safety in being awful’, I meant sometimes you rather keep yourself from loving, so you don’t get hurt. It makes you feel powerful, in control.

That sense of power is an illusion and nothing else.

[amirali_1506]

@boudicca

I meant sometimes you rather keep yourself from loving, so you don’t get hurt. It makes you feel powerful, in control.

Hi… how are you doing

I was reading your comments,I can’t read all of them, but when I saw this I should say
It’s impossible to live without love…
And I can’t remember which of you said something about Lowering expectations…
And that’s the same.
At least for me…

I mean how can I love SB and still have no expectation of him/her?

[amirali_1506]

It was the problem my whole life…

And I can’t change this… Cause I have tried so much (with different kind of Trappist and…) ,But no result at the end):

[amirali_1506]

@autophile

I just wanted to remind myself that it’s better not to expect too much of those around me. I’d be much happier.

The same for me…

I have always pretended like I don’t care about the people around me and I don’t expect them to act the way I want, but it was not the thing that I really felt

[autophile]

@amirali_1506

It’s impossible to live without love…

I guess you’re right.

@amirali_1506

I mean how can I love SB and still have no expectation of him/her?

The less you expect from them, the better you feel, I should think.

[autophile]

I’m afraid I don’t follow you there. Can you explain yourself a bit? I mean, what’s the the problem of your whole life?

[amirali_1506]

I just did/do that because I feel more powerful while I pretend like that.
And that’s just an illusion

[autophile]

You mean you keep yourself from loving?

[amirali_1506]

@autophile

The less you expect from them, the better you feel, I should think.

I always remind this to myself, like everyday

[amirali_1506]

I mean I can’t keep in touch/be in relationship with people meanwhile no expectations and no dependency

[autophile]

Uh-huh. That’s understandable.

[amirali_1506]

@autophile

You mean you keep yourself from loving?

No no… Firstly it’s impossible, secondly without love life would be meaningless, and thirdly the answer )depends on what do you mean by (love?