In my opinion, marriage is one of the important steps for human to evolve. Marriage is usually divided in two kinds: traditional and today’s marriage. Love is an important key for marriage; first love burgeons between man and woman. I believe if a person is going to get married and lets someone else come to his/her life, won’t need to change his/her style, interests, entertainment, values and his/her true self to make his/her life partner satisfy and become person who never is, although spending every wish on her/him. So choose a person who likes you as you are.
My answer to this question: Getting married is wrong or right nowadays?
Yes, I accept that our society don’t have good situation in every aspect, but it’s not the reason that avoid getting married, because one of criteria for marriage is that person is able to resist against all problem and must be able to deal with all possible contingencies. I know that my opinion is idealistic but regarding I’m trying to be positive so I have this idea as my husband and I have made our life on it.
I agree with you.
Both of them, marriage and single people have problem, we lost something when we got married and when we are single,
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so my friends, you missed something for achieving every thing. So think about which one better for you and put value for your choice.
I am sensitive about the scope of the topic because if I want to discuss about marriage, there are a lot of aspects to discuss. Therefore narrating the discussion by considering the topic is necessary.
This topic has two parts. The first part is my experiences about marriage as a married person, I am married, and the second is about the correctness of marriage, if it is correct or not, and why.
I have been married for four years. During these years I have learned many things about life specially the relationship with my partner. As a married person I think when you start living with another person, under every conditions and forever you have to be patient. This is the most important experience that I have had. This is the key to succeed in your relationships with your partner. Because before starting new life, you can’t make sure that everything is considered. You are only one side of the matter. The other side is unknown for you from many aspects at first. Thus you should change your point of view to life. In my opinion when you are married you should build your life based on that new situation.
In essence marriage is great. Based on Islam and other religions and even from a scientific point of view, family is the most fundamental part of every society. But what if we consider marriage in relationship with other parts of a society, including culture, economic, traditions, technology, politics, believes and many other things as context. It looks very complicated in this way. I think our point of view about marriage needs to be updated on and on. It is almost impossible for me to say that the marriage is correct certainly. I have to say it depends on many elements and everyone should decide based on him / her situation.
If you go out and ask people “how much are you responsible in a relationship?” you’ll get a huge variety of answers.
But my favorite answer is from the book “compound effect” by Darren Hardy.
He mentions when you are in a relationship whether it’s a marriage or boyfriend/ girlfriend or whatever… you are 100 percent responsible for everything.
for what you say, what you hear, how your partner behaves, how your children behave and so on…
I had it in my mind and I’ve been thinking about it until I watched a video by Elliot Hulse.
He was answering a question by a man who was cheating on his wife.
He asked: his wife constantly is annoying him and every time they cross paths with each other they have a fight. recently he found himself in love with her wife’s friend and here was the question.
“should he get a divorce and continue his relationship with the new woman?”
Elliot gave him a long answer but here was the interesting part.
He said, " you have two mirrors, 1. your wife 2. your daughter, if they behave badly, you must look at your self and ask what have done?"
This reminded me of Darren Hardy’s quote about 100% responsibility. you do something and people around you respond to it. no matter what…
so I started with this long preface to get my line straight.
I’m still young and I’m living in a country which I like to call Chilan and it’s an abbreviation of two words.
challenging
Iran
living here by itself is challenging and adding a new challenge to take another 100% responsibility for life is a whole different story.
So all I can say is that I can’t get married not because I don’t like marriage or the challenge behind it. but because I’m living in Iran and I can’t handle anything.
So as long as I’m living here I won’t think of it. and in my opinion, marriage is a tough choice that anyone can make.
So my answer to marriage is No I don’t think It’s a good idea to get married in this situation.
Marriage??
In these days getting married is like a nightmare
Personally, I can’t think about it with this crazy economic situation that goes straight to hell. As most of you said, getting married is so important and nobody can not ignore it. But it seems everything gets out of hand today. Any amount of money that we had yesterday is more worthless today. So, if a boy wants to marry in Iran should have a good amount of investment and totally sacrifice himself and work 24/7 for a very normal living. I think it’s not fair for Iranian boys to live the rest of their lives like this.
Who knows? The economy might be worse tomorrow. Staying alive itself is a great winning these days.
BUT
There is a trick to get married without hesitation and stress.
Marry a foreigner girl and go to abroad with its invitation.
Shoot two birds with one bullet.
در این پست به توضیح شیوه جدید فیدبک دادن میپردازیم.
شما وقتی یک پست ارسال می کنید زیر پستتون گزینه های مختلفی خواهد بود، مثلا این پست من
هر کدوم از این علائم کار خاصی می کنه ولی شما اون سه نقطه رو وقتی بزنید این منو باز تر میشه و تبدیل به منو زیر خواهد شد:
اون علامت آچار رو بزنید ( ) و پستتون رو تبدیل به دانشنامه می کنید که در ادامه توضیح میدم به چه دلیل.
وقتی این عمل رو انجام دادید پست شما به این حالت تغییر میکنه :
حالا همه می تونن به پست شما دسترسی داشته باشن و ویرایشش کنن.
خب اینا رو گفتیم، می رسیم به کارایی این دانشنامه و خاصیتش برای فیدبک دادن.
شما وقتی پستتون رو به دانشنامه تبدیل کنید هر کسی که قصد ویرایش پست شما رو داشته باشه می تونه بهش دسترسی داشته باشه و اون رو برای شما بهتر کنه. کافیه رو Edit کلیک کنه و پست رو تغییر بده.
وقتی پست تغییر کنه بالای پست شما به این شکل در میاد:
بنظر من که فکر خوبیه همه نظرها در مورد هر متن تو یک پست قرار میگیره و تعداد پست ها کمتر بنظر میرسه.
دسترسی به پاسخ های مختلف دوستان هم راحت تر میشه.
اما این هم بشرطی هست که ویرایش صرفاً جهت همین کار استفاده بشه. نمیدونم متوجه منظور شدید یا نه
سلام
وقت تون بخیر .
من مخالفم .
این که گزینه بزارید برای ویرایش پست خوبه ولی برای اولین نوشته که تو اینجا میشه :
فقط و فقط برای اولین نوشته که اگه یکی بخواد در مورد تاپیک توضیح اضافه کنه ، این کار رو بکنه …
من به این مطلب اضافه میکنم (به عنوان مثال ):
کسانی که خوشون طلاق گرفتن یا از اطرافیان شون کسی رو میشناسن که طلاق گرفته در مورد این هم اگر بنویسند و از تجربه های شکست هم بحث بشه ، برای امثال کم که مجرده مفید هست . نظرات تون بهم کمک خواهد کرد در انتخاب های اتی من … thank u
(حرفم رو جدی نگیرید ) فقط برای مثال نوشتم که اصل توضیح تاپیک رو توسعه داده باشم که یه مطلب اضافه تر رو زمینه بحث قرار بدیم .
اگه تو هر تاپیکی اولین پست این طور باشه خیلی خوب میشه …ولی دیگه بقیه پست ها همون روال سابق خوبه ، باید بدونیم کی چی نوشته که بتونیم در مقابلش نظرمون رو بگیم ؟!؟ ویرایشی بشه که این کار سخت تر میشه …
حالا نظر من بود .
باز خود دانید .
فکر خیلی خوبیه. فیدبک باشه خیلی عالیه. من در مورد اینکه چطوری فیدبک داده بشه پیشنهادی دارم. هر کی هر نوع فیدبکی داد حتی الامکان به منبعی هم ارجاع بده چون دانش افراد از قوانین نوشتن و گرامر ممکنه با هم در یک سطح نباشه و به این صورت بیشتر میشه اون فیدبک رو بهش اعتماد کرد.
ینی خلاصه بگم من فیدبک کسی رو قبول دارم که یا از دانش اون فرد اطمنیان داشته باشم و یا برای فیدبکش به منبعی اشاره داشته باشه. این باعث میشه که افراد واقعا، فیدبک بدن و در عین حال معلومات افراد در این زمینه هر روز بالاتر بره.
Marrage
The first thing came into us brain,have a great (arrosi),but in this terrible sitution iran is,i cant even thing to this situtuion,i am single, i thing must wait to will iran sitution get better and everyone knows doller is going up,and my ideas is stop until doller going down and then can get marrage with … .
In home grandmom say me (likes mr.farzad)when u get marrage? "And around me have a lot girl want i ask her, would u marry me? And i when see her face i laughed them because when in a fa(jam) came marrage word in between(injash farsi bood ) her face became red and i laughed her . In my fa(familha) have tree gril and they want to me i say they marry me .
-I forgot it, why they girl’s face became red? Because i was child, i say they, when i will grow up, i will marry u.
We have a fa(basati)
Maybe everyone read this comment ,will become counfused, because i half of this comment i wrote farsi .
I hope u have a great day.
) و پستتون رو تبدیل به دانشنامه می کنید که در ادامه توضیح میدم به چه دلیل.
) می تونید تغییرات ایجاد شده در پست رو مشاهده کنید و ببینید از چی به چی تبدیل شده.
