I am going to force you to see some light in this world!
I might seem happy and as though I have nothing to be worry about other than my negligible youth problems but I have and I think I have seen enough of the ugly part of this world already.
I don’t want to talk about them because they make me feel uneasy. Though, I don’t see how focousing on sad parts of life would help us. Being happy is only a matter of thinking and looking at things. I’ve decided to see the bright parts and Ignore the dark parts as much as I can.
The other day a friend of mine here reviewed the voice I uploaded in one of the speaking callenges and told me I should talk with more emotion in my voice, make it raise and fall. I told my sister about it and she said that it’s no surprise my sound seems cold cause she thinks I’m so selfish and heartless as my sound might seem and I know why she thought that way. It’s because whenever sth hard or bad comes up I try not to talk about it and dwell on it more than it is necessary. I crack a joke or change the subject and if I need to talk about it I pour my feelings out on a paper or sth. I don’t speak them. And she thinks I simply don’t care. But I can’t see what she gets by thinking too much about them and frowning all the time other than getting on my nerves and making me feel down too.
I will write here and we defintely find subjects to talk over. Having a subject it’s not really necessary.
It’s an impossible mission. Nobody can “force” people to see hope in their lives. Hope is something you feel in your heart (not in your head). And I look happy in front of other people. If you see me, you will see a happy guy. But I feel dead inside. I’m telling you these things, cos you don’t know me.
The way you think and write shows you have experience. I reckon by “the ugly side of the world” you are referring to my previous comment. I didn’t mean you’re a young, inexperienced, little girl. This phrase is not a simple thing that happens to people once; it’s a pile of bad things that burdens on your mind, makes your heart heavy and eventually changes you and your thoughts.
BTW, most people don’t know how to judge others or even help them to get better. Don’t read too much into other people’s judgements. Actually, other people are the reason that I don’t see hope in life. They’re hopelessly useless (sorry, other people).
Do you think those who answer users’ questions, without taking part in writing challenges, really know how to speak and write? Or they’re just trying to show off the things they don’t actually have? (My first emoji)
I’m really sorry. I always knew nagging makes people sad and makes them focus on bad feelings. Once I told someone “don’t talk about depressing things”. But I’m doing this to make the topic more interesting. Different views make conversations interesting.
Let’s see what you will write about the next subject. I don’t see how you are going to make it look sad. ( I’m only joking. I always enjoy talking to you)
Have a great night. ( try to look at the stars rater than the dark they have laid in)
Well, when I’m stressed out, I turn into an absolute mess. I can’t settle somewhere and I get a severe headache because my mind just races and buzzes with thoughts. I don’t know how but I have made a habit of not just noticing the things around me but also trying to understand them. I can’t help it and most of the times it doesn’t bother me at all. But when I’m worried, I just get soooo overwhelmed that it makes me pissy and annoyed and just… to be honest, a jerk. So, I try to get rid of that anxiety ASAP.
Most of the times, I write. And you may think it’s stupid but it’s like as I pour my thoughts out of my mind, they really leave it forever. I truly feel my head is a bit lighter.
I draw. I’m not a specialist or sth. It’s about 5 months now that I have taken a class and we are still working on animals. Not humans but I have drawn for my own plessure since I was five years old.
I read. I just get lost in books and do not resurface for hours.
I text my friend, Farnaz. She is literally my salvation. Actually, we find each other kindred spirits so we can easily relate.I always shake with laughter whenever I text her.
And if none of them work I try to get out of the house and if that’s not an option, I keep away from others till I cool down.
I don’t have “one” virtue that I value “the most”. But there are a few that they’re equally important to me.
I cherish “honesty”. We live in an unbelievable society of hypocrites. It’s not that we are insincere, we expect others to perform insincere etiquette too (yeah, we’re that dumb).
I love being supportive and having support. I try to be supportive of my colleagues too. So, I have this co-worker that I did everything I could to help him; sometimes I carried him (I filled in for him on New Year’s Day, for god’s sake). Every time he tells me “I’ll definitely pay you back”. And “pay me back” he did alright. I’ve heard he badmouthed me behind my back and disrespected me in my face. This little things will kill me some day (literally).
Everything in the world is connected to a lot of other things. Every little move we make has an effect on others’ lives. When we throw a candy wrapper in street, when we look sad in front of people, even when we yawn, we affect the surrounding atmosphere. When I see how stupid people act and how unreliable they are, I just think of death as a solution for feeling relief. Living in Iran, and with its people, I have to live with my death-wish as my roommate too. One of us eventually will abase himself to the other.
There are other virtues too, but I wrote too long already and nobody will read it (of course 90% of you cannot even read it)
If you got it, flaunt it. Write something, you people.
Hello
Human tends to choose the easy way for their problems even though they know that the outcome is more harmful!!
Let me explain it by an example: everyone wants to be successful and they all know how it’s great to succeed and how terrible that is to be failed but again we see them choose the easy wey, laziness. It’s hard to follow your dreams your goals, you have to fight over them and of course failures are certain in this path so for that, majority prefer to abandon their aims.
So how does this relate to the question??
it’s exactly the same. When we face a worry or feel jumpy, two options will be arisen, we can simply let it roam around in our mind and hand it to the “time passing” to resolve it or you can embrace it and wash it away of your mind once and for all.
Most people tend to pick the first option and the most thing they do is to distract themselves with say reading(even though the brain’s productivity decreases when you’re in a bad emotional state), because it’s much more convenient.
But believe me it won’t help in every sense of the words, because time passing makes it consolidated in your mind and one day it will find an aperture and violently eurpt and eventually get back much more powerful. It’s going to be with you even though “others” won’t understand that this worry has affected you, but you yourself know this and you will collapse internally.(you can’t fool yourself, trust me )
But I prefer to face my woories, struggling to figure it out even though I know it’s gonna be horribly overwhelming. I try to minimize them or talk to someone who I know can help me ( someone can be anybody that you can truly rely on). Sometimes only one word by a person like your wife can work wonders.
But I admit some problems are tricky or seem unsolvable so In this case I return to distractions and try to involve with something I love like soccer or reading.
But these problems, if don’t exaggerate them are so rare, aren’t they?
Being good, is not easy you know. I think every one has a bold vertue in their charecter. A vertue shaped by both their environment and sth inside them.
For some it’s wesdom, for some courage and for some slflessness, you name it.
And to be frank, I find it really hard to be good with my bold vertues that I have no trouble spotting them. I try to be but it’s not easy. Specially when emotion runs high. I sometimes do sth terrible without noticing it. Like, I talk in a bad way with someone and then, after seeing their reaction, I note my tone. It’s horrible to know and hurt some one but it’s devastating to hurt others without even realizing it.
That’s what I say. We don’t have to make things look much gloomier by making the hardness of their grips on our lives marked in ever feature.
Yeah things are bad but learn to leave with it! It’s not easy but there is no other option. We don’t get anything by frowning and moaning and all. Though, It’s much easier to do so rather than really doing sth about it.
You don’t know how it pisses me off when sb starts the morning with a scowled face. I’m like, it hasn’t started yet! What is the freaking matter?!
I believe we’re in the same boat.
But also believe that most of the worries we have are nothing but hallucinations.
I don’t want to disrespect other’s problems and I know we can’t judge others saying they are overestimating their issues, but I think they like to show that their problems are the worst. It’s like that they want to show thier problem as it’s a mistry instead of seeking for solution.
Why? Really that’s my question, why do we like to show ourselves as the most miserable person in the world?
Please don’t get me wrong but I think it’s a feeling that every one has, for some it’s in high level and for some it is in lower.
Belive me if someone thinks that we are free problems, we will be ruffled at least for a little . It’s just because we subconsciously like to show we are miserable. (no offense to anybody but a I want to share my thoughts not to consider anyone special )
Hi my dear friend
I think you are focusing on negatives and filtering positives.
As it comes to vertue, I admire looking for good things instead of bad things.
I believe I have a lot of failures so I try to focus on my own bad behaviors.
Of course I know some people that I really feel nausea when I only see them let alone talking but I also know a lot of great people around myself.
Worries are worries cos most of them are unresolvable from our perspective. You’re talking about “simple problems”. Worries are “hard-to-solve problems” (like anxiety about future, health, fear of failure and so on; they seem unsolvable, and that’s why they worry us and make us stressed out). Again, you are talking about problems before they make us worried and stressed. A person must be stupid if he knows a solution for something and lets the time heals them (Holy Mary, last time I wrote “time heels”; my brain’s screws are getting loose. “Heal” dammit, “heal”).
I know what you mean. It’s somehow in our nature, moaning and all. But even if sb has a problem that’s hard to deal with, it is their own choice to eccept it couragously or run away from it timidly.
Sometimes, we don’t have control over the things that happen to us, but we can chose how to react.
I’ve found nothing in being sad. But I’ve found loads in being happy.
I don’t care. Stupids deserve their own misunderstandings. Let them suffer from their own stupidity. If someone does not notice, and find or ask, what you want to say, it’s their problem (first they have to ask, before jumping to conclusion).
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I always knew nagging makes people sad and makes them focus on bad feelings. Once I told someone “don’t talk about depressing things”. But I’m doing this to make the topic more interesting. Different views make conversations interesting.
to resolve it or you can embrace it and wash it away of your mind once and for all.
won’t understand that this worry has affected you, but you yourself know this and you will collapse internally.(you can’t fool yourself, trust me 
