Like I said, arrogance and confidence have two different goals. When you are arrogant, you want to prove that you are a priority. For example, you think your thoughts, opinions, and advantages are more important than other’s.
On the other hand, if you’re confident, you try to think anything coming your way will be easy for you to handle and this merely helps you to reach your goals. Arrogance is proving you’re better than everyone, but confidence is thinking positive to achieve your goals.
Some people (they’re called idiots) might confuse these two together and cannot distinguish them from each other occasionally. For instance, if you try to prove something confidently, you might be accused of arrogance. So first, never try too hard to prove anything. Nobody likes a smart ass.
And second, if you tried to prove something, and you cared too much about the judgement of idiots, not to think of you as an arrogant person, then congratulations, you’re an idiot too, and not being arrogant doesn’t improve your situation much.
I don’t think this is true. Let’s imagine a few simple examples. A middle-aged man on skateboard; an old geezer listening to music and humming with a set of big headphones on his ears; a young man with mohawk hair or Van dyke beard; or any sort of weird style of fashion for youngsters. All of these are confidence. But do you really think they look good and the society easily accept them?
Also, some communities, especially for their leaders, require some arrogance, otherwise a lot of members would take advantage of the weakness and lack of an iron fist. You cannot always expect friendliness.
You’re always supportive, even when you’re not in the mood. Thank you for that.
Btw, PS is an outdated abbreviation. You can’t use it confidently without the risk of getting mocked. (Can you sense the arrogance in my tone? ). Not a joke though.
You make a convincing case for it now. I agree with you. I, also, like people who are comfortable under their skin.
But I didn’t get what you meant by your last sentence. You used the word “fake” for the second time. How can someone fake arrogance? Arrogance comes from the hatred that other people planted into your mind. If you’re arrogant, you hate people, no doubt.
Let me ask an off-topic question. I think the subjects we always talked about are the most profound and deepest concepts that most members cannot participate in. And also I believe we are the only people who did that in the history of the forums. Do you think this is the reason that most members don’t want to participate in our topics? Don’t they have anything to say? (It’s alright if you don’t want to analyse other members’ behaviour. I understand)
One of my Mynas just died (20 mins ago). She was a good girl. She had a tumor and didn’t show any behavior till 5 days ago. We bought her when she was a month old. She died at age 2 years.
We did everything we could, but it was already late.
We had to feed her with syringes and meds, but she didn’t make it.
I’m gonna drop some tears. She was like my sister
Oh, now I see what you meant. Yeah, girls do that. Mostly in Iran though. Foreign girls are more comfortable. Once a French girl paid me a compliment about I’m being muscly and strong built, I answered her like I would to an Iranian girl. You know what she said after? She asked “Are you gay?” . But Iranian girls are not comfortable. Not comfortable at all. Somehow they think they must protect their girlhood against strangers. Weird culture we built here.
But they must know they cannot always have everything they want. Most of the times you have to force yourself to talk about things that you don’t like to talk about. Autophile wants to post comments about serious subjects. Erfan wants to talk about stories and stuff. You don’t want to discuss philosophy (big word for what we are doing here, though). Not everything is always pleasant all the time.
“Life is like apple. You must bite it with the skin.”
I’m sorry mate. That sucks.
(See? I just forced myself to say sorry about the death of a bird. Wasn’t that hard. It’s a joke Erfan; cheer up! )
@vali29732 Hello. You must know it would be my honour to see you post your comments in our thread. We’re friendly folks. (Let me weirdly add, we’re not show-offs, despite what it might look like from the outside sometimes). So you’re always welcomed here.
I know exactly what you mean. I agree sometimes it’s very important to handle a situation with arrogance when you’re a girl. But I meant in general. I know I’m a good man. Even me that I don’t mean bad, feel terrible talking to some girls. Sometimes I want to ask an address, when I ask a girl she doesn’t even look back to see who is talking to her, let aside answering. We built a culture that boys are sexually frustrated, and girls must find a way to repel them. That’s what I meant.
You see our conversations as just conversation, but I see them as just practice. When you want to have a conversation, of course you are not always in the mood to talk about certain stuff. But when you are practising you can talk about anything. Even refusing to talk about them could be a practice.
You’re making me look like a jerk for joking about his bird. Sorry, Erfan, I’m sure your bird is in heaven, happily looking down at us and mocking humans. God bless her soul (Couldn’t recover, could I?)
I feel you’re not in the mood to talk much. So I’ll see you later.
Ok, before I go let me ask you a complicated question in a simple form. Do you prefer to know or not to know? They say, knowledge is power. So how much do you think you want to know which not causes you pain?
I totally agree. Two weeks ago I made a gaming video and shared it on English communities. Unfortunately, most viewers found it offensive toward girls, but I did mean no harm! You may be curious to know what was the content about?! It was about a builder story in a video game who would travel to a town for a job. At the very first intro, you would encounter a girl who by very low chance, she was a builder too. The game’s genre is farming sim which allows you to freely discover things, build and craft new stuff, get married and blah blah… To add a little humor to my video, I started to question developers why there must be a girl waiting for you at the station at the beginning?! And kept talking about it a few times in the rest of the video.
TLDR; I got so many toxic comments, some said I have issues with girls, some said I’m a gay, and many others called me something you better not to know. However, one of the comments was really interesting. Someone replied to a comment left on Reddit, saying “He’s probably coming from a weird culture, and we can’t see his reasoning of making the video”
I got it, it also made me terribly sorry for not thinking about other cultures before recording the video and put a lot of effort into the editing, but I also got the experience too.
About the bird, no worries guys.
I’m not mad at any of you.
I’m happy we were there and gave her water before she passes away. She died with eyes-opened seeing my mother and I, holding our tears back. She went straight to heaven (where no humans can go).
Hi dear friend I wouldappreciate any comments you might have and i’m happy to accept your invitiation.
if you don’t mind I have some idea for this topic first of all, i suggest that you choose some controroversial issue thus we might as well engage in debate.
Did you say the girl is looking for a husband there? Nice!
Our culture is really weird, but you shouldn’t care about what others say. People on the internet always nag about: Why you don’t think like us? Why you said something that I do not approve? Why did you make fun of me? Doesn’t matter. They’re not coming to your house, so who cares?
Trying to tickle my conscience? Like I don’t have a guilty conscience already.
Are you telling me not only my jokes fell flat on their faces, but also made you feel offended? That’s a shock!!! Do you remember how I would feel if I offend someone unintentionally? Remember that!
Anyway, are you one of those naive people who thinks words cut deeper than any sword? That happens only if you let them cut you, or be too emotional. So what I’m trying to tell you, in a very polite manner and with a considering tone of voice, is this… Don’t be such a baby!!! I know your moodiness worsened right now, but try to breathe deep and think positive (exactly like you did there ).
I give you this one. Telling you this was uncalled-for. Sorry.
BTW, thank you. Any sort of confrontation is good for our practice. You can say more of this stuff.
Hello, again.
What kind of controversial? About religion, gender, politics, sexual preferences and stuff? I don’t see any boundaries for a conversation here. So you can ask whatever you want, and we will talk about it.
Actually, I asked a lot of questions before. Normally I ask one, and we talk about it, but we can discuss other things beside the question as well. Feel free to suggest any subject you want, though.
Let me find some of them for you:
If you could pick just one hobby for the rest of your life, what would it be?
Are you guys happy? I mean happiness in general.
In a scale of 0 to 10, how much do you think you care about what other people think of you?
Do you believe in supernatural?
Do you think dreams can predict the future somehow?
Do you think there’s a boundary between being kind and mistaken for being naive?
Do you think positive effects of following the news is more than its negativity?
What’s your definition of stupidity?
What’s the difference between a confident and an arrogant person?
Last night I watched the film The Phantom of the Open. It’s a British film about an old man who realises that his dream is to play golf. He’s from the working class of Britain (a crane operator), so he doesn’t have enough money to play golf like a rich man. But somehow he manages to enter a professional golf competition. He doesn’t do well and the media calls him the worst golfer in the world. He stays persistent, but it never pays off. Weirdly enough, he becomes successful, but not in a normal way. He stays the worst golfer but a famous one.
Do I go crazy if I know when I would die? Or it makes me calm and peaceful? Do I go bananas if I realise my love cheated on me? Or it makes me to move on with my life? I’ve never actually decided if it’s good to know or it’s good not to know. If “information is power” or “ignorance is bless”. But deep down somehow I just wanted to know everything. I was curious. But when you get to a fact that is unpleasant and even knowing it hurts, you might agree with a saying like “ignorance is bless”.
It’s not a secret that all of us want everything in our favour. We want all for ourselves. This gives us an illusion like “maybe God is in charge to please us with all pieces of information that are good to know”. But I prefer to think maybe we must accept everything that we have, but try to know more. Whatever the correct answer is, If I could choose, I think I would go for knowing, even if they are unpleasant.
But I would go with having “Bernard’s Watch” to stop the time and do crazy stuff. Especially to those who cheat. I could have bank robbery for my needs, and life would become really fun. Joking aside, I wished I could go with “ignorance is a blessing” I mean not now, maybe 4-5 years ago; something career-destroying happened to me. I can’t change the past, but the time I spent will never back.
Information is also good, maybe if I had the info about what’s gonna happen shortly, I could plan wisely to avoid or confront it. But having more information than our needs makes human life predictable without ups and downs, which gets repetitive.
I don’t know if you guys have watched the “Death Note” Japanese anime series or not, but by having this notebook, I could end the world’s suffering.
Don’t think about the past. They say all’s well that ends well. Don’t worry, you’re still in your prime (unless your profile photo is very old and you are at your 90s, then you are f***** when did they invent camera?).
I watched the anime, I reckon, more than 10 years ago. It’s about a notebook that you can kill people just by writing their names in it (it’s unbelievably good; everyone must watch it). But I wonder how it works if you want to end all the suffering of the world. By killing bad people? It’s like trying to clean a poisonous environment by cleaning just the poison. I believe the world creates suffer and joy together. They’re not removable.
). Not a joke though. 
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Do you remember how I would feel if I offend someone unintentionally? Remember that!
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when did they invent camera?).